Sensation Play

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Hey there. My name is Julia. Before you begin this episode, please make sure to have the following items on hand: a blindfold, ice cubes, and candles made specifically for wax play. Feel free to pause this track and gather those supplies if you have them. Great. Today, you and your partner are going to be exploring some BDSM practices focused primarily on physical sensation. Or, as we’re going to be calling it, sensation play.

Our senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell), play a big role in the way that we experience pleasure. Playing with our senses and stimulating them in new ways is a great method for introducing new kinds of pleasure into your sex life. When we take away one sense, such as through a blindfold or restraints, it heightens the others. The term “sensory deprivation” might sound a little intense, but by focusing in on one of our senses instead of stimulating them all at once, we can open up our experience of pleasure to completely new sensations.

Today is about experimenting with how we can stimulate our various senses. Overall, our goal is to release endorphins today. You know that warm, floating feeling that makes you feel like you're flying. That’s what we’re going to aim for today.

I will give you some time at the end of this session to continue your play and climax together if you’d like, but our main goal here is to focus on sensation foreplay. So…if you’re ready, we’re going to start with the blindfold. Now, hopefully you and your partner are somewhere private and comfortable. Perhaps your bedroom or maybe the living room if you’ve got it all to yourselves. If you’re not, then pause this episode and get yourself situated. You can have your clothing on or off at this point. It’s entirely up to you. Just get comfortable, however that looks and feels.

All good? Let’s get started. Discuss for a moment between you who is going to be giving and who is going to be receiving. You’re welcome to use the roles of dominant and submissive here, but that isn’t totally necessary.

Okay. Whoever is the giver in this situation, I want you to blindfold your partner. You can be in whatever position you’d like – sitting, lying, standing. Be gentle and attuned to your partner’s comfort level. They might be feeling a little vulnerable in this position. Assure them that they’re safe with you.

Now, kiss your partner. Start off gentle and slow. Let them experience the sensation of touch without sight. Trace your fingers slowly down their arm. Give them the opportunity to feel your hands and your lips on them.

Very good. Keep touching them. Gently. Slowly. Let them anticipate where you’re going to touch them next. Not knowing is both exciting and arousing.

Deepen your kiss now. Really let them feel the passion and excitement you have for them. Feel free to pause this episode if you’d like a little more time to spend here with the blindfold. If you’re ready to move on, we are going to try a little bit of temperature play. We tend to think of heat and ice as opposite sensations, but they’re actually quite similar in the way that we experience them.

Let’s start first with introducing the sensation of cold. Go ahead and grab the ice cubes you’ve set aside. The receiver can remain blindfolded for this if they would like. It’s also totally okay if they’d like to take it off for now.

Now, take an ice cube… and just… slowly… press it up against your partner’s lips. Let them feel it against their lips and tongue. Then, drag it slowly down to their chin…their jaw…and down their neck…

Again, stay attuned to your partner’s reactions right now. If it’s too much, pull back a little and give them a break. Drag the ice cube down their body…wherever you’d like. As it melts into your hand, you might want to press it between their legs…or swirl it around their nipples...

Very good. You might also try putting the melting ice cube into your mouth and kissing your partner. Let them feel the sensation of your cold tongue sliding in their warm mouth.

Feel free to pause this episode if you’d like a little more time to spend here on cold sensation. If you’re ready to move on, go ahead and grab your wax candle.

If you haven’t already, go ahead and light the candle so the wax can begin melting. Before we get started, let’s talk briefly about safety. Wax play should only be done with candles intended for use in the bedroom. Ordinary wax burns at too hot of a temperature for skin and could cause burns if misused. If you don’t have any such candles on hand, you can substitute it with a hand towel dipped in warm water which you can drip onto your partner’s body. Again, make sure that the temperature isn’t too hot to burn the receiver. Also note that wax should never be dripped on the face or genitals.

You may want to lay down an extra sheet or towel beneath your partner to catch dripping wax. Be considerate of your partner’s body hair, as it can be painful to remove dried wax from these areas. A good place to begin is the shoulders, arms and upper chest.

Feel free to explore other more intimate areas of the body once your partner gets used to the sensation. Finally, keep in mind that the heat is strongest when it first hits the skin. As it cools and dries, the heat turns to warmth and fades away.

Okay, when you’re ready, take your candle and hold it above your partner. How high is up to you, but you want it high enough so that you can gently tilt the candle and let the wax drip down onto them. The higher the candle is held, the cooler the wax will be when it lands on your partner’s skin.

Slowly, let one or two drips fall. Check in with your partner and see how that felt. If they liked it, let’s keep going. Let a few more drips fall down onto them. Again, we’re giving them the opportunity to anticipate what sensations they’ll be feeling next. We’re letting their excitement and anticipation arouse them.

Very good. Think of your partner as a canvas and the wax as your paint. Try dripping the wax now across their chest… their thighs…anywhere on their body you know is particularly sensitive…

If your partner wants to be blindfolded for this, they can slide the blindfold back on and feel excitement in the anticipation of where the next hot wax drip will be. Feel free to pause this episode if you’d like a little more time to spend here with wax play. If you’re ready to move on we’ve got one more exercise we’re going to test out.

This last exercise requires a little bit of creativity. Sensation play doesn’t have to just be limited to hot or cold. We can incorporate different textures, hardness or softness, and any kind of items that are going to give your partner new sensations. So, right now, I want you to find something soft, like a silk tie, and something textured, like a comb or a paintbrush. Feel free to pause this episode if you need some time to grab these things.

Ready? Perfect. Take your soft item and lightly caress it across your partner’s body. Just enough to barely be felt. Tease them with it…

Very good. Watch how their body reacts...

Now, take your textured object and tease your partner with it. If it’s a paintbrush, slowly drag the bristles across their upper thighs. Experiment with tapping the object lightly against their skin. Build up their anticipation. You’re doing a great job.

Now, I’m going to leave you alone now to experiment with all of these things we’ve learned today.

Remember that sensation play is about focusing on your senses one at a time. It’s about isolating them to give you new pleasure experiences. You can combine sensation play with more mental aspects of BDSM, like power play and restraints, in order to heighten the pleasure even more. As always, make sure to play safely and that you always have your partner’s consent. Now, keep experimenting, have fun, and I’ll see you in our next session.

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