Touch Yourselves for Me

It’s easy for us to fall into habits when it comes to our sexual practices, especially with our partners. Repeating the same foreplay and the same sexual acts might lead to feelings of boredom or the sensation that you’re stuck in a sexual routine.

Something you and your partner can do as a new form of foreplay is mutual masturbation.

By engaging in self-pleasure together with your partner, you can learn more about each other’s desires and create a pleasure practice together.

Before we get started, take a little bit of time to get comfortable. You should be in the bedroom or someplace relaxing with plenty of privacy.

If you’d like to put on some music or perhaps dim the lights and light a candle, now would be a great time to do so.

If you or your partner would like to use a toy for this session, feel free to grab your favorite vibrator and some lube, if necessary.

If you need any more time to arrange your space, feel free to pause this episode and come back when you’re ready.

While you’re getting situated, I just want to take a moment to note that you and your partner may not feel equally aroused throughout this session. If that happens, that’s totally okay. Bodies respond to various stimulations in different ways, so try not to worry about catching up or slowing down.

Now, if you’re ready, let’s go ahead and get started.

Wherever you are right now, just lie down beside your partner and face each other. We’re going to start with some light touches to warm each other up. Just trail your fingers down your partner’s side…

Touch their shoulder…

Their hips…

Their cheek.

Take turns trailing your fingers slowly across each other’s lips…

Down their neck…

Wherever you know they like to be touched.

Good. Keep going.

Show your partner how much you desire them with your touch… show them that you love their body…

Very good.

Now, you can kiss your partner if you’d like. But be patient. Don’t get too excited too quickly.

We want to keep things slow and steady right now.

Kiss them and let your hands start to roam and wander down their body. Just like that.

Feel free to vocalize any pleasure you’re feeling. Let your partner know what you’re enjoying… let them know how much they turn you on…

Stay in this moment…

Feel your partner’s body. Feel their desire building.

Now, slowly start to undress your partner. Take turns taking off one piece of clothing each.

And while you undress each other… trail your fingers down your partner’s chest… through their hair… along their jaw.

Take pleasure in these slow, quiet moments of intimacy.

Very good. Keep going…

You can remove all of your partner’s clothing. Every piece…

Make them comfortable. Make them feel desired and appreciated.

You’re both doing so good.

If you’re feeling ready… you can go ahead and start touching yourself. If you feel more like touching your partner right now, don’t worry. We’re going to get there. But right now this is about witnessing and encouraging our partner’s pleasure.

Let your fingers trail slowly down to your thighs. Take your time to arrive between your legs.

If you or your partner would enjoy watching you touch themselves with a full view of your body, feel free to sit up and re-arrange yourselves.

Now, let your fingers tease yourself. Just… little touches…

Let your hand naturally lead you wherever it wants to go.

Let your fingers explore your most sensitive areas. You know exactly what makes you feel good… show your partner how much pleasure you can give yourself…

Mmm, yeah, just like that… you’re both doing so good.

If it helps you to be patient, think of this as a performance for your partner. You don’t want to rush. You want to draw them in… seduce them…

Let out any moans… any noises of pleasure that rise in you…

Let your partner know how it feels to watch them give themselves pleasure. If it’s turning you on, tell them that.

Tell them how much you desire them… how hot they look right now. Encourage them to keep going.

Show them how you touch yourself when you’re alone.

Look them in the eyes… hold their gaze as you both give yourself pleasure.

Yeah, that’s right… just like that…

Focus on your breathing for a few moments. Take deep breaths in… and long, slow exhales…

Feel your pleasure and desire travelling through you…

That’s right. That’s good.

Mmm, that feels good, doesn’t it? You both look so hot right now…

Are you getting turned on?

Yeah?

Keep going. Keep touching yourselves for me.

Start moving a little faster now… rocking your hips into your touch.

Observe your partner as they’re getting more and more turned on. If there’s something about their body, about the way they’re touching themselves, that turns you on, let them know.

There you go. If you want to praise your partner, if you know they like being praised by you, go ahead and tell them how good they’re being. How aroused they’re making you.

That’s it. You’re both doing so well.

If you find that you’re getting a little too close to climaxing, just try edging yourself a little. Stop touching yourself for a few moments and focus on watching your partner until you’ve come down a little.

You can even place your hand over your partner’s and let them guide you in how they like to be touched.

This is so good. You both are so fucking hot right now.

Tell your partner what you want to do when this session is over. If you want to give them oral or play with a toy or whatever it might be. Tell them about it right now.

Be detailed. Tell them exactly what you want.

Yeah, that’s it. Ohhh, fuck, just like that…

Now, you might be getting close to climaxing or at least experiencing very intense pleasure right now. If not, that’s okay, just keep going.

If you are, I want you to communicate with your partner. Tell them how close you are so you can decide when to stop touching yourselves and begin touching each other.

If one of you needs more time, that’s absolutely okay.

I’m going to give you both some time now to make that decision and adjustment on your own.

Take as much time as you need to get to where you want to be. Remember, there’s no timeline. No pressure.

Just cultivate your pleasure however you can.

Thanks for listening and see you next time.