Hands-Free Pleasure

Hey there. Welcome to this lesson on touch-free orgasms by Suzannah Weiss.

Suzannah is a certified sex educator, sex and love coach, and sex and relationship writer. Suzannah has spent her career helping people, especially women, learn how to orgasm and expand their orgasmic abilities. As a certified sex educator and sex and love coach, she teaches classes such as “Orgasms for Vulva Owners” and “Living Life Orgasmically” and works with people one-on-one to help them overcome sexual blockages and feel more pleasure.

Her insights are based on her training as a sex educator and somatic sexologist as well as the method she developed in her own life to go from never experiencing an orgasm with a partner to orgasming in every sexual encounter.

Today, we’re going to talk a little bit about touch-free orgasms—what they are and how to achieve them—and then we’re going to try out a guided exercise to help us achieve this kind of orgasm.

When we talk about touch-free orgasms, we’re talking about orgasms that occur with no tactile stimulation, whether that’s on your genitals or anywhere else on your body.

They may be achieved through other senses—that is, simply through looking at something you find very arousing, like porn, or hearing something you find sexy, like a partner engaging in dirty talk with you. Touch-free orgasm may also be achieved through mental visualization, fantasy, breathwork, or movement.

The sensation of a touch-free orgasm feels similar to a touch-based orgasm for some people but totally different for others. Some people describe these orgasms as more full-bodied, more subtle, more intense, or longer-lasting.

Both touch-free and tactile orgasms activate the same regions in the brain responsible for pleasure, but they may feel different physically depending on your experience with both types.

You might be wondering why someone would want a touch-free orgasm as opposed to a tactile one. For starters, it’s all about preference, much like most of, if not all, sexual pleasure.

Some people with sensitive clitorises or those who don’t enjoy penetration might find touch-free orgasms to be a viable alternative.

Okay, so, the first step toward learning how to achieve a touch-free orgasm is becoming aware of all the potential places in your body where pleasure can exist. By locating and attending to sexual energy in less-often stimulated parts of the body, you can potentially begin to expand your pleasure receptors.

This exercise will teach you how to have a touch-free orgasm using a combination of breathwork, movement, fantasy, and visualization.

You may want to find a private place where you can lie down in order to do this exercise. Get comfortable and make sure your environment is conducive to a little erotic fantasizing. Feel free to adjust the temperature of the room, maybe light a candle, and get yourself a pillow.

Like I mentioned before, sexual desires and pleasure are extremely subjective. What’s incredibly erotic and sexy to one person might be a total turn-off to others. So, while I guide you through this erotic visualization exercise, I want you to fill in the specifics with your own desires.

Alright, let’s get started. Tonight, you’re going out.

You’ve been asked out to dinner by someone you find very, very desirable. This could be your partner, someone you’ve had your eye on, a celebrity, or even a fictional character.

Make sure that this person, whoever they might be, is someone you’re comfortable with. Someone you can spend the next few minutes fantasizing about.

You can tell this person really likes you because they’ve been texting you often and have been wanting to get together sometime, just you and them.

You see a text on your phone from them, inviting you to dinner at your favorite restaurant.

Imagine reading those words on the screen and the swell of your chest as excitement fills you up. Your body is filling with a gentle sensation. Maybe your fingers are tingling slightly, or your heart is beginning to beat faster and faster.

Imagine what it might feel like to be touched by them. Even if it’s just their hand on the small of your back… Or their cheek grazing yours as they greet you with a kiss on the cheek.

When you arrive at the restaurant, you both look your best. You’re feeling confident about the way you look and you feel them looking at you often, almost like they can’t help it.

As you talk and the both of you relax, the tension between you starts to get palpable. That little smirk on their face… The flush of your cheeks as you try to act natural.

You laugh often together and with every passing second, you get more and more comfortable.

At some point, you feel their foot and then their leg press into yours. After that, they reach out and take your hand from across the table. Notice yourself starting to get turned on.

Let’s pause here for just a moment. Are you feeling any body sensations right now as you lie here engaging in fantasy? Maybe your heart is beating a little faster than normal… Or your skin is a little flushed. You might even be feeling desire or arousal already, but it’s okay if not.

Give your body a quick scan to zero in on and indulge in any of these sensations. Pretend that you have a magnifying glass and you’re examining each sensation with it. For instance, if you’re feeling a tingliness in your genitals, see if you can’t amplify that feeling simply by focusing on it.

Feel those sensations expanding to fill your whole lower body… And then… your entire body. Feel it increase in intensity as you put your awareness on it. As we continue the fantasy, I’m going to have you periodically tune into your body like this to notice and amplify its responses.

Let’s return to our date. At the end of the meal, they cover the check, as promised. And then there’s a brief awkward pause as you consider what to do next. You’d really like to get to know them better in a more intimate way, but you’re not sure how to initiate it. Thankfully, they do that for you.

They tell you how much they’ve enjoyed this night and ask if you’d like to go somewhere else.

Maybe they invite you to their place down the street, or the hotel they’re staying in for the night. If they’re your long-term partner, maybe they surprised you by booking a hotel room. Or perhaps you head back home with a newfound lust and appreciation for each other.

Feel the excitement growing as you imagine what you’re going to do when you reach your destination. Let your body fill with desire…

You have a long, intimate conversation, sharing details about your life with them that you don’t normally tell people. They, similarly, let you in on some personal details they only tell those that they’re closest with.

Then, your eyes catch theirs again and there’s a momentary silence as you smile at each other. You kiss and you feel electricity jolt through you as their lips touch yours. Their hand reaches up to cup your cheek and you melt into their touch.

Let’s pause again. How are you feeling now? Have the feelings you identified during the last pause increased? Are there any new feelings?

This time, try amplifying any pleasurable feelings you’ve identified with your breath. As you inhale, imagine that your breath is traveling to the parts of your body feeling the most sensation right now. Your breath is nourishing the sensation so that it grows and grows to fill your whole body.

Their hand begins to travel slowly down your body. You both remove each other’s shirts.

Their hands are all over your favorite place to be touched. You feel their body in your hands and the sound of their growing pleasure. They moan softly in your ear, their body inching closer to grind against yours.

What are you feeling now? Longing? Tension? Arousal? Pleasure? Know that if you’re capable of feeling these feelings without any actual touch, you are capable of orgasming this way as well.

Now, let’s use sound to amplify what you’re feeling. Imagine that these feelings of arousal could make a sound.

Breathe in and as you do, imagine your breath traveling to the part of your body where you’re feeling the most arousal. As you exhale, let out your breath with a moan, groan, growl, sigh, or whatever best expresses that feeling.

Very good.

Do this a couple more times. Breathe in and out as loudly as you can as you imagine your bodies getting closer and closer.

Now, let’s return to the scene. Your hips are grinding together as you’re kissing and running your hands up and down each other’s bodies. Both of you are breathing heavily and it’s clear that you both want to take this further.

You tease each other with little touches, inching your caresses between each other’s legs.

What comes next is subjective and personal to you. Whether you like to be on top or you like to be receiving. Imagine yourself there with them… the sounds of desire and pleasure… the feeling of your bodies pressed together…

Take a few moments here to engage deeply in this fantasy and imagine yourself lost in the specificities of your pleasure.

How are you feeling right now? Feel free to release any sounds you feel you need to make. Let your body do whatever it would do if you were actually in that scene right now. Let loose.

Imagine your lover enjoys watching you react like this. Try to imagine the pleasure they get from giving and receiving intimacy with you.

Lose yourself in this scene. Let your mind wander and engage your deepest fantasies with this imaginary lover.

Imagine that your body is reacting to this scenario in real-time. How do you feel? On a scale of 0 to 10, how close to orgasm are you? Don’t worry if your score is not as high as you would like. Even getting to one means that something is happening.

Keep moving your body, breathing, and making noise as you would if this were actually happening. You can even incorporate dialogue into your experience and tell them out loud how good they feel.

Feel your pleasure increasing… growing stronger with every second. It’s spreading from your lower body all the way up to your head and all the day down to your toes.

You’re getting closer and closer to cumming in this scene.

You can feel your legs shaking and your toes trembling. Your voice is getting louder. Your body is writhing with theirs. Intense contractions and pulsations are overwhelming your genitals, your pelvic region, and your entire body. You can’t take it anymore.

Moan aloud as you cum in your fantasy.

Imagine your whole body tingling with intense pleasure before releasing. Can you feel it?

You feel satisfied… complete. And so does your partner.

What happens next is entirely up to you. You are free to continue this fantasy after we complete this exercise. But for now, take a moment to just feel your body.

How much of that could you feel? Did you feel pulsations or spasms in your genitals or any part of your body? Did it feel like a wave washing over you?

These are some ways that a touch-free orgasm can feel. If you felt anything at all, that’s one step toward experiencing a touch-free orgasm. And if you didn’t, you can call back your dream date, or any other fantasy, to work on it.

If you need extra help, visit www.suzannahweiss.com, for personalized coaching or sign up for one of the offered courses.

Have fun, and wishing you pleasure.