Desiring Yourself

Hello, my name is Sophia. Today, I’m going to guide you through an erotic self-touch session focused on cultivating desire. Today, we’re not going to be focusing on desire for our partners, but rather for ourselves.

You only need yourself for this session, but feel free to have some lubricant with you if you like to use it. You are going to need to be completely naked for this session, to take some time to undress and get comfortable.

We often experience desire as an outward feeling. It’s often directed at someone else, or at something else. It’s that feeling when you admire someone’s body, their personality, their smile. Your body responds to the sight or thought of them with pleasure or arousal. You want them. You crave them.

Desire is at the core of sexual pleasure. Here’s the thing, though. A good sex life isn’t just about desiring others…it’s also about desiring ourselves. In order to offer your sexual energy to someone else, you first have to recognize and appreciate yourself as a sexual being.

But I know that having desire for yourself can be… difficult at times. We tend to put ourselves down, we doubt ourselves and our worth. So often we’re our own worst critics - whether it’s how much you weigh, what you look like, how big or small different parts of your body are…we judge ourselves so harshly sometimes.

The good news is that we can change that way of thinking. Self-criticism is a learned behavior, which means it can be targeted, challenged, and changed. You are worthy of love, of desire, of pleasure, and so much more. You deserve to feel good about yourself. You deserve to be appreciated, not just by others, but by yourself as well.

So, the first thing we’re going to do in this session is to relax the body. We want to release any tension and let go of any distracting thoughts that you may be holding onto.

Go ahead and make yourself comfortable. You might want to sit in your favorite spot on the couch or lay down in your bed.

Take a few moments to just notice how your body is feeling right now. Is it tired or refreshed? Do you need extra support anywhere? Just take these moments to check in with yourself and notice any places of tension or discomfort. You can also take note of your mental state - are you feeling good? Or are you feeling drained? Are you in need of self-care?

I want you to take any stress, insecurity, or tension you’re feeling and separate yourself from it for this session. Envision yourself stepping through a doorway. Your stress and insecurity can’t pass through with you. They are simply pulled out of your body as you pass through the door. Now, we’re going to gently close the door. Those things of tension and stress, they are things that are on the other side of the door. And right now, we’re focusing on what’s on this side, with you, right now. Take a deep breath in for me.

It feels good to breathe without those other things weighing you down, doesn’t it? Let’s go again...in...and out. Excellent.

As you relax and settle into your body, I’d like you to think about yourself. What do you like about yourself? Do you have a favourite part of your body? Where are the places you like to be touched most?

Go ahead and just rest your hands on your stomach.

The stomach can be a sensitive area for many people. It’s a place where people often project their insecurities onto. But remember, your insecurities are on the other side of the door. Not here with you right now. Right now, I want you to just feel your body beneath your hands. Feel your soft skin under your fingertips. Trail your fingers around...

Now, how ever your stomach looks or feels, however you feel about it, I want you to know that it’s beautiful. Any preconceived notions you have about this area of your body are on the other side of the door. Right here, on this side...we’re just feeling ourselves.

If this is an area of discomfort for you - take the time to understand that working through those insecurities may take a while. Right now, you don’t have to love this part of your body. But you can appreciate that it’s yours. It belongs to you, it is a part of you - therefore, it is worthy of love.

Very good. Keep trailing your fingers up and down. Just show this part of your body a little appreciation with the soft, slow movements of your fingers.

Now, slowly move your hands up to your breasts. Again, I want you to try and let go of any negative feelings you may hold for this part of your body. Just run your fingers over your nipples and notice the way your body reacts. Notice the sensations as you touch and stimulate yourself here.

Appreciate, if you can, your body’s reactions. If you’re getting a little flushed, or if your nipples are hardening in response to your touch, just appreciate that. Your body allows you to be sensual and sexual.

Now, at your own pace, start to move your hands down to your hips and thighs. You can gently begin to explore between your legs if you would like. I want you to think, as you start to wake your lower body to your touch, about what a lover might see or feel when they’re intimate with you.

This can be a scary thought. Don’t project your own feelings onto them. Take a deep breath...and just try to imagine the desire they feel for you as they are touching you. The naked body is one of the most vulnerable gifts you can give to someone...chances are, the person you’re with feels excited and aroused when they look at you this way. If you can, try to show yourself that same desire. It’s okay if this doesn’t come naturally. Just do your best to appreciate your body and yourself right now.

This would be a good time to use your lubricant, if you have some. Just let yourself be free and open to the sensations of the world around you...

If you’re feeling up to it, you can slowly trace your fingers over your clit… down over your inner labia, and back up. Massage through them and back to your clit. How does that feel?

The wonderful thing about the clit is that it’s designed purely for pleasure. It has no other purpose than to make you feel good.

Start to slowly circle your clit with a light touch. Notice the sensations of your body as you find a rhythm that suits you and your pleasure.

If you’d like, you can use your free hand to pleasure other areas of your body. As we continue to tap into our desire, remember to also focus on breathing deeply. In...and out. Very good. That's it...keep working your clit.

Feel the desire for yourself build. It’s at this point your mind may begin to wander...but I want you to focus on yourself as best you can. Focus on your body, your touch, your breathing. It’s all you. As you touch yourself, notice if there are any changes in the way you’re feeling. Do you feel a sense of calm? Confidence? Empowerment?

If you’re in a private place, feel free to make any noises you would like. You can moan, or sigh, or even talk dirty to yourself.

Does the sound of your pleasure turn you on?

Feel free to go faster now as you touch yourself… or harder. Whatever works for you.

Feel your arousal building up. And imagine it’s all aimed at yourself. It’s not for anyone but you.

Now, I’m going to leave you to continue this exploration and cultivation on your own. If you’d like to orgasm, you can do that. If you’d like to stop here, you can do that too. If you’d like to just spend some time exploring and appreciating your touch, that’s also okay. Once you’re done with this session, you will walk back through that metaphorical door. Maybe the same insecurities and stresses are waiting for you there...but maybe not.

Each time you make the effort to focus on yourself and your pleasure, cultivating desire for yourself - loving yourself becomes that much easier. Please remember - you are a sexual being worthy of desire and pleasure. Enjoy the rest of this session, and I hope you join us again in the next one.