Massage for Her

Hey. It’s Lizzy.

I’ve been thinking, and… I bet your partner would absolutely love to get a massage from you. Something slow and sensual. An erotic massage that helps her relax… but also gives her pleasure.

Giving each other erotic massages can be extremely intimate as it requires spending a lot of time and attention on your partner’s body. It can also be a nice way to mix up your foreplay habits and try something new.

Massages also require a bit of mindfulness, which can be a great addition to your bedroom activities. Staying in the moment, focusing on physical sensation, and letting all of your other thoughts drift away… These are all skills that can help you and your partner feel more connected during sex.

Why don’t you two get settled on the bed or wherever you would like your massage to take place. I’ll be right here with you, guiding you, telling you exactly what to do.

Before we get started, you should have some oil, lube, or lotion on hand for this session.

Massage oil works best, but it could be fun to use some edible lube instead if you feel like you might be engaging in some oral play after this. However, do be mindful that your lube should be water-based. Oil-based lube can cause some irritation if allowed to get inside the vagina.

We first want to set up a nice atmosphere for this session. Sex and intimacy are extraordinary things and it’s worthwhile to put attention and effort into your surroundings.

So, I’m going to give you some time here to make adjustments as I give you recommendations.

If you’re going to be using oil in your massage, which I highly recommend, you may want to lay down a soft towel or an extra sheet on top of the bed to keep things neat and easy to clean.

You may want to dim the lights or turn off any overhead lighting. If you have smaller light sources, such as lamps or candles, you could use those as your primary light.

Make sure that the temperature in the room is comfortable. If it’s nice outside, consider opening a window. Or, if you’re feeling a bit wild, perhaps take your massage outside altogether.

Some people enjoy music during a massage, so if that’s something either of you would enjoy, then feel free to set that up as well.

Lastly, I recommend you both be naked for this, but it’s fine for now if you’d like to keep your clothes on. Whoever is getting massaged will need to take some of them off as the massage focuses on different parts of the body.

If you need a bit more time to make your environment comfortable, go ahead and pause this episode until you’re ready.

If you’re all good and ready to get started, then let’s move on.

If you’re going to be receiving the massage today, go ahead and lie down on your stomach and just get comfortable. Lie your head on a pillow if you need it. And just… breathe.

Focus on your breathing. Deep inhale in…

And deep exhale out…

And just repeat that.

If you’re going to be receiving the massage today, I want you to try and relax your mind as much as possible. Feel free to communicate with your partner when you need something adjusted or want to slow down or speed up or whatever you might need.

Now, I’m going to be speaking mostly to whoever is giving the massage today for the duration of this session.

So, if that’s you, go ahead and either straddle your partner’s hips or sit down next to them on the bed.

Get your oil or lotion ready and rub it between your hands to get it warmed up.

With just your fingertips, gently trace the contour of her back a few times.

These first few touches should be slow and light, just warming her up to your touch.

Make sure your fingers are soft and relaxed as you drag them from her shoulders… all the way down to her hips.

Let your fingers graze along her neck…

Take in deep, slow breaths as you touch her. You both should be focusing on your breath, staying in the moment.

Now, lay your palms on her shoulder blades and slow drag your hands down. This should be a slightly heavier touch. Still light and gentle, but stroking down her back with intentional, relaxing touches.

Spread the oil over her back… her shoulders…

Very good.

Now, focus your touch on her shoulders. You can start with some light squeezes here. Just kneading gently. Warming up that area.

Press your thumbs into her shoulders and move them in a slow, circular motion. If there’s any tension in this area, this is going to help relieve that.

Perfect. Keep making her feel good.

Just like that.

Now, shift your attention to her upper and mid-back. You can use the heel of your hand to knead her skin in slow, gentle strokes. We’re adding more and more pressure now…

Remember, each touch should be intentional. Each touch should communicate something to her. That you appreciate her… that you want to give her pleasure…

Roll the heels of your hands against her back.

And whenever you’d like, you can use your thumbs as well to knead out any tension you might find.

Take a moment now to check in with her. See if she needs any adjustment. More oil. Or if there are any particular places she’d like you to touch.

Now, let’s shift downward slightly to her lower back. Here is another great place for using your thumbs to relieve tension.

Roll them in slow, continuous circles just above each of her hips.

Perfect.

Remember, this is your way of showing her how much you appreciate her. How important her pleasure is to you. Try to show her those things through your touch.

It might be tempting to shift your focus down to her ass, but we’re going to skip over that for now. Let your fingertips just glide over each of her cheeks. You can squeeze or knead them gently as you pass them by. But do so as you make your way to the back of her thighs.

If you need to get more oil, now would be a good time to do so.

Just like before… we’re going to slowly trace our fingers down her body, this time focusing on her legs.

Let your fingertips glide slowly down… down… all the way to her feet. And then… back up. Back to her thighs.

Repeat this a few times. You may work your fingers towards the inside of her thighs… Just tickling or lightly kneading your thumbs right beneath the buttocks and leading towards the vulva. Don’t go any further just yet. This is a very, very sensitive area where touching often leads to arousal…

You can start squeezing and kneading the backs of her thighs now. Using your thumbs to direct any tension upwards and outwards.

Try different patterns of touch. Repetitive squeezing at different paces and pressures…

You’re doing so great. Just keep focusing on making your touch intentional.

If you’d like, and if your partner would like, you can massage her feet with slow squeezes and kneading strokes.

Press your thumbs against the arch of her foot. Squeeze away any tension here.

I want you to slowly guide your partner in turning onto her back. Give her a few moments to get comfortable in this new position. While you’re doing so, you might want to add a little more oil or lotion to your hands.

We’re going to move on to some more sensitive parts of the body now, starting with her breasts. If you or your partner are feeling up to it, you might find it pleasurable to add a blindfold into this session. By removing one of our senses, the others become amplified.

Take a few moments to discuss this with your partner and get whatever you need.

Alright, let’s continue.

Let your fingers slowly drag across her breasts… just waking them up to your touch.

Place one of your thumbs over her left nipple and just circle around it… nice and slow…

Let her nipple harden from your touch. We’re not rushing towards any objective here… just focusing on giving her pleasure.

Now, switch over to her right nipple. And do the same thing. Just… slowly… circling around it…

Lay each hand over each of her breasts and just gently squeeze… Knead and massage them in your hands… not too much pressure… just soft, circular motions.

If you want… you can squeeze each of her nipples. Pinch them lightly… or… use your mouth to suck and bite on them.

Whatever she likes best.

Keep giving her breasts and nipples attention… Just like that…

Draw your fingers slowly down her chest, and down her sides… right towards her hips.

You can squeeze and knead her hips a little bit here. Letting your thumbs dip down towards her inner thighs…

That’s it… just inch your thumbs slowly up the insides of her thighs… towards her pussy…

Okay… before we go any further… I just want to impress upon you that orgasm is not our goal here today. Of course, it would be an incredible part of this massage session, but don’t feel that your goal is to make your partner cum.

Your goal is to give her pleasure. You two can make a decision on what you want to do after the massage, or if you want the massage to lead into intercourse, but for the moment keep her pleasure at the forefront of your mind.

Okay? Let’s keep going…

Start off by focusing on her vulva which is the outer, visible area of her vagina. Dip two lube or oil-soaked fingers between her lips and just… slowly… drag them down…

Take them from the clit… all the way to the anus in a slow, sweeping stroke. Just get that area nice and lubricated…

Now, take each of her vaginal lips and part them gently with your thumbs. Use soft, circular motions to caress and stroke them.

So good… you’re both doing so well…

Now, do the exact same thing with her inner vaginal lips. This area is quite sensitive and doesn’t need much pressure to become aroused.

Just stroke your thumb slowly along each of her inner lips… remember, you’re not trying to bring her to climax… you’re just giving her pleasure. Just making her feel good.

Now… shift your focus to her clit. Using just your thumb, stroke it in slow, circular motions.

With your free hand, you can massage another part of her body if you wish. Her thigh… her upper arms… wherever she would like you to touch her.

Go slow… soft. Just letting her feel good. Showing her how much you care about her pleasure…

I’m going to leave you now to continue your massage, engage in some foreplay, or whatever else you might like to do.

I hope that this session has been helpful in connecting on a deeper level with your partner giving them an opportunity to relax and experience pleasure.

Thanks for listening… and see you next time.